Welcome to the Adaptive Mindset. I'm Brett Gallant, cybersecurity thought leader and founder of Adaptive Office Solutions. Here, we don't just talk tech, we unlock the strategies, stories, and mindset shifts you need to stay secure, lead boldly, and thrive in a digital world. Let's get started. Welcome back to the Adaptive Mindset. I'm really pleased to have with you today, Alan Dyck. This is going to be a banger. I want you to pay attention and listen up. It's going to be good. It's going to help you. When I first connected with Alan, I thought I was joining a fitness program. Alan's my fitness coach, by the way. What I didn't realize was this. I was signing up for a total identity reset. Alan partnered with Dan Martell to create a online program that's helped entrepreneurs like me rebuild their discipline, their energy, and their confidence. Today, we're going to unpack the habits, the mindset, and the cleanse that changed everything, and how those same tools can help you show up as the person you're meant to be. So Alan, welcome to the Adaptive Mindset. I'm glad to be here. How's it going? Oh, it's going great. I've had a great day, morning gym session, just meeting people like you today. It's been a pleasure. I love it. So let's dig right in. Let's talk about how your whole journey into coaching began and your Well, for me, it's been, well, it's been 24 years now. And, you know, a long time ago, my, my advice was any form of fast food and sugar. And, you know, for a lot of people, myself included, it was just, I needed something to curb something that I thought was an issue. And, you know, it took over my body and it made me feel and look like shit. And, you know, I was married at the time, and even though we had a great relationship, I still felt so alone because of how I felt as an individual and from where I had put myself. For so many people, it's just like once you start that downward spiral, it just continues to keep going and going, and it's so hard to get out of that fucking rut once you're in it. For me, You know, there, there was a very specific day that, you know, kind of had me turn my hat backwards and say, enough's enough. I don't know where I will be if I continue on this path. And, you know, I was getting ready for work. We had an outfit we had to wear. I had slip on shoes. I had a technique that I had to do in order to put on these shoes. Cause I was so big. And one day I just couldn't, I couldn't put them on. And it was my, my aha moment where I was just like, you're fucking joking me. And I just broke down, you know, and I just started crying. And at that point in time, I was, you know, I was depressed. Like I said, I was lonely. I, you know, I had a, had a great relationship, but I was still all by myself. And, you know, for anybody else that's been in that position, you know, exactly what I'm talking about. And that fucking moment on, I turned my hat backwards and I said, no more. And, you know, it started, started pushing myself in the right direction, not knowing what that right direction was. All I know is I need to do 110% of the opposite of where I was and where I was that day. And. you know, started, you know, eating healthy or whatever I thought was healthy. Chicken, tomatoes, why those things? I have no fucking idea. Started going to the gym, which was the most intimidating thing on the face of the planet for someone that felt and looked like me because I was so in my head, assuming that every single person that I would see was thinking something that they And, you know, being able to walk through those doors and just, you know, be in that environment was the hardest thing, but the best thing I ever did, because after two and a half months, I was able to drop 115 or 120 pounds. And, you know, even though I still look through the same eyes, I still felt different. And I knew I had more energy to be able to try and help as many people as possible feel like I did now, as opposed to where I was. And that was my life's mission is. I was so unhealthy and in such a bad state, just like Tony Robbins says, change your state, change your mind, change your body. And it's like the second I did that, I knew what I wanted to do with my life. And I wanted to have as many people as I could possibly help be able to compare the two so they Yeah, no, you're speaking to the convert. I have a similar background. I was I've yo-yoed on my own journey. I was at my highest after my father died. I ballooned up to 349 pounds. Oh, wow. Yeah. And so like what you're saying, you had that, that moment that we all get to, or, or, or sometimes we don't, we get to, and we don't accept it. We decide not to act and that we don't work on our mindset for me. I had that with my coach. I actually dropped money on a program before signing up with you. And before that, I did nothing. And I was lying to myself. But it came to me for my moment, which was similar, where I've released, as of today, 130 pounds, which is incredible. But I said to my coach, my business coach, I said, Dave, I don't have time to go to the gym. And he said, Brett, you mean to tell me you don't have time to go to the gym? Okay, there's lies we tell ourselves and like from being around you and seeing how you structure things and being in your program, it's all about rebuilding your identity. Like I've been following you and I've listened to a few of your episodes and even you've launched your own podcast. And I had a great listening and listening to your story, your story and how you helped people. I think it's really important we tell some of that story today, Alan, so we can tell some more people about it. I'm The first time I ever said this out loud was a couple of years ago. I was asked to speak in Charleston, South Carolina. And I had never done a speaking engagement in my entire life. And Dan had said to me, you know, eventually this is going to come about. And it sure fucking did. And so they brought me down there and I was it was a two day event. And it was Adam and he owns I Love Coaching. And I was the second speaker because I was his coach. And I was the second speaker on day one. And I literally was shitting my pants. And I just, I was so nervous and I was so scared because I had never said out loud what actually, you know, happened to me. And so, you know, the first couple of minutes was tough. I was sweating like crazy, but then all of a sudden it just clicked. Cause once you start talking about something that you're passionate about or that you know better than anybody else on the face of the planet, it just starts to rattle off like nothing. And so. You know, for me, like I said, I was a large guy. I clearly ate my feelings and got to a point where, you know, I was working at a place called Ruth Chris and it's a fine dining establishment. And when you're as heavy as I was, you know, we had two floors. And they would get a kick out of it when they would put me on the fucking bottom floor because the bar was on the top floor, but I would have to go up two flights of stairs, get the drinks and come back down. And, you know, I feel for you. Cause I remember my knees were upset at me. My lower back's like, what the fuck is the deal? And I'm sweating. Like it's going out of style and I'm not working out. But to me, my body, when you're through almost 300 pounds, it's a big deal. And so. I'd get up there, I'd get my drinks, I'd come back down and I'd have to collect myself for like three or four fucking minutes and gather myself, my thoughts, my breath, all those things. And, you know, it was embarrassing. But for some reason, you know, that wasn't the moment that changed where I needed to go in the right direction, because for some reason I just continued on. And it was so sad because like my ex-wife, we would go grocery shopping and I would I loved fucking Twinkies. and I would just eat a whole box of Twinkies before we even got home. Like But it's crazy how when you get so used to something, that's what made me happy. It was sad that that's what made me happy, but because I was so used to it and I just felt the way I did, is that every time I would consume something that was horrible for me, it made me happy and it made me okay. And we live in this loft and i was so large that i couldn't even fit fucking normal on the toilet i had to sit sideways and it was like once again i was with somebody that loved me she didn't care what i looked about but she did care that i was you know i was healthy and then i at least you know I tried to possibly go in the right direction. And don't get me wrong, there were so many things I did, like so many other people, where I would try this bad, or I'd try this and just nothing would work. And then I would revert right back to what I was comfortable with. And that's fucking Reese's Pieces buttercups. And it's crazy when you go down that path for so long, and it's just normal, even though it's not. And I just, to this day, I'm so happy that I was, you know, I was only, you know, 24, 25, but I was happy that I was finally able to make my, my choice on And you did that early, like you can still change any And that's why I tell so many people, it doesn't matter when, it's just, let's go. And I just finished talking to a couple of people on the phone before I got on this, and I listened to people's story. And everybody says the same thing. It's like one guy was 47, other people are this, other people are that. Everybody's in a different stage of life. But I said to him, I was like, However corny it sounds, we've got one life to live. How do you want to live it? And you know what? After I compare where Yeah. And I, I think there's some people that have already gone through their transformation in life and they, they can resonate with that because I am, I'm not going back. Uh, And it really changes the decision. And just, there's a shirt that I love to wear, Alan, all the time. Discipline is a decision. And we just gotta decide, and this is it. But it's okay to ask for help at the same time. And that's why it's important to reach out to people like you. And not 100%, because we can't do it alone. We're meant And you know, like, and that's what I love when you said that, like Dan always, he said to me back in the day, it's not if it's when, and it's like, I don't even use that word ever again. It's when is it happening? And yeah, 100%. And that's like, you know, it's so important when you can change your mindset, just say, okay, you know what, this is what I need to do. And, you know, the fact that I love what I do for a living, but it took me so many years to figure out how to make it work. And that's why when I talk to somebody, sometimes I sound like a car salesman because I just start going to town, but I love it so much. Well, I'm passionate and I know the results are going to happen within one day. And it's like, I already went through the tests, the trials, all the things, because every single thing I've talked to every single one of you about, I've already done to myself to make sure it works. Therefore, when someone lies to me, I can call them out on it and say, how bad do you actually fucking want this? Because I already put in the time to tell you where Oh yeah. And that's the thing. I was talking to somebody last night that's on his own journey. I do scouting. And he was saying, I love the fact that he got a coach. Somebody's helping him. But I told him the other thing that's equally important is what you put in your mouth. You are what you eat. Yeah, 100%. And we have to be honest with ourselves. And I've been yo-yoing, even being on your program, I've been yo-yoing. But there's this little, little critical moment that we have to really be honest with ourselves. And there's times that, hey, on the fitness program that I'm on with you, there's certain elements that you say, okay, you finish at six. But it's a mindset. You're not actually hungry. There's times I put, I'm just saying that. So it's 100% that you have to make that decision. How bad do you want it? And how much work are you gonna do and follow the program? and make that decision. And be disciplined. So. And you know, when someone finally makes that decision, all of a sudden everything changes, you feel better, you look better, you've got more energy, and now you're able to take on the world at a different level regardless of what it is. I've got kids, I've got a 10 and a 12 year old. There's zero chance I'm gonna be slowing down before 110 years old, but I know that I'm gonna be able to do what I need to because I want to do it and I feel amazing. I don't want to take a fucking nap at two o'clock in the afternoon because I don't have fucking energy. No, but it's my job to try and help people get through Yeah, well, like just with what you've helped me with, I shared this with somebody a couple of days ago. I wouldn't even take my children up to the park. I want If you go back to that old version of Alan, if you could whisper something to him right now, to that pre-transformation, What you know now? What would I say to him? No one's ever asked me that question before. Yeah. What kind of life do you want to live? Yeah. Yeah, Dan asked me that question when I first started training with me, he says, what do you want out of life? And I told him I want to spend it with the people I care most about in the whole world, doing whatever they fucking want to do and just having a good time. You know what? That's what A hundred percent. Cause he literally brought me into his place and There's a real thing that everybody listening, ask yourself that It'll change mindset and it'll change your direction. You know, we think about a specific car, you see that car, you think about what you want, you're But it's a decision. And all you got to do is decide. I believe, just because I've been working on my own mindset for years, there's a book, The Mind of Man Can Conceive, The Mind of Man Can Achieve. Agreed. That's a You know what it is, too. Yeah. I just went to Tony fucking Robbins in Anaheim. So it's like listening to somebody like having to be able to put all those things into practice and then just have a guy like Dan in my corner, have a guy like Tony be able to say the stuff that say the stuff that Dan talks about. Like it's like mindset And sometimes, though, And you've, you probably know this yourself. Sometimes you need to hear the same thing multiple times. So you hear it a new way, or the person you are today is ready to receive it and execute on it. You may have needed to hear the words that Alan said today for you to activate something today to get after it. A hundred percent. You know, I was thinking about this the other day, cause I was talking to, I can't remember who was talking to, but I was like, I'm 43 years old. I two years ago when I met Dan and he was able to teach me that there's no fucking ceiling and give me just some form of direction. I already had the drive, but the direction was kind of clouded. I thought I had made it when apparently I didn't. I can help more people. It was crazy how. I was upset. I said to him, I was like, man, I'm kind of pissed off that I didn't make this transition 10 years ago. And he's like, but would you have been able to receive it and do what you did now with it 10 years ago? And I was like, you know what, fuck off. Like it made sense though, because I don't think I would go back. I don't think I would have made the same choices and done the same thing that I would have No, because the person you are today, you were ready to receive it in the way that you need it to. Just like when I came into the program with you guys, uh, I was ready. I already was partway there, but I was ready to take them to the next level. Just my mindset, um, uh, on that, um, There was something that you said in your first podcast. Alan's got a podcast, by the way, and I totally recommend you check it out. The first two people you helped along the journey. I think So there was a lady named Jasmine. And so where we live in Kelowna, There's a Save On Foods and every single fucking day when we lived there, where there was, I would go into the Save On Foods and I didn't realize there was this girl, her name was Jasmine, she worked in the bakery. And I didn't realize she had been following me and kind of watching and this and that, but she was a heavier lady, but she was scared. And so she had watched me for six, seven, eight, nine, 10 months. And all of a sudden, one day I was up there and she's like, Alan. And I was like, hi. And she's like, hi, I'm Jazza. Nice to meet you. And she was, I think, just under 400 pounds, 380 pounds, I believe. And She was so scared because I could tell that she wanted to talk to me because she obviously had seen my stuff and what I can do. And we got talking one day and I kind of gathered that, you know, she needed some help. And for me, when I was first starting, like I said, I wanted to help as many people as I possibly could. So what I did, it was close to Christmas time. I walked in and I said, Merry Christmas. And I gave her a, basically it was like a coupon. And I wrote on it and said, one year free training with Allendeck. And she started to cry. And I just said, this comes with one caveat is like, you have to listen to every single thing I say for the next year. And she says, done. She lost almost 120 or 150 pounds in that time, took back her life, feels amazing. And it makes me happy because now I was able to help somebody change their mindset, change their person, change their attitude, change their fucking competence. And now they're a better person for every other person around them. And then she's now damn near a walking billboard. So now the people that she motivates, it's just a win-win situation for every single person. But at the end of the day, it gives me goosebumps to talk about it, because I fucking love it. And Yeah. And that's the beauty, just showing up and helping somebody. I know my own transformation has helped people. I had a hard time accepting it at first, but now I'm just accepting it. Yeah, it's new. Yeah. I'm still uncomfortable with And that's where I said earlier, it's like we always look through the same eyes. So for me, my big problem was I competed bodybuilding for damn near 20 years and I'm not necessarily done yet, but I'm working on my business right now, but I still look through the same eyes. And a couple of years ago when I took Dan on, My kids had never seen me maybe five times in their entire life with my shirt off. Because even though I was a competitive bodybuilder, I never took my shirt off because I still thought I saw what I used to see. And so Dan's like, you know what? You're just going to do a disservice to your kids, to the people around you. And he's like, you've worked your ass off. So why wouldn't you? To this day, it's crazy how I changed my mindset. And now I feel more comfortable and It's always in the back of my brain. And for every single person listening, and that Oh, 100%. I mean, I'm getting on the plane this Saturday to go up North. and I'll still be asking, in the back of my mind, I'm mentally prepared to ask for the seatbelt extender. You're fucking, right? And I love how we just fucking let it out, but we Yeah, 100%, and I got so good at it, Alan, because I didn't want to be embarrassed when I couldn't put it on. The old me, I knew as soon as I go on the flight, I would ask the stewardess, could I have a seat belt extender? So I wouldn't be embarrassed. No shit. You know, but there's still that mental thing. I'm going to be thinking, do I need like, there's still that old version that's still, you know, still there for sure. Um, um, What are your top three non-negotiables right now for you? All It's well, my top three are, so every person I take on has to send me, uh, usually, and this is more so for men, as opposed to women, uh, their weight to the decimal. So I know it's all along. We're going in the right direction. What kind of physical changes they can see and where, and are you hungry in the day? And if so, when with those three things, other than wait for females because it's not as important because I care more about how they look, how they feel, and I don't want it to mess with their head. Guys, we're a little bit different when it comes to that. And so, I know my role after helping as many people as I have. But once I have those things, I'm able to put anybody in the right direction faster than you can ever fucking think. You either can take a bus or you can take a plane, how fast you want to get there. And for me, those are very important because what happens is, like you said earlier, Every single person needs to be accountable to somebody. And if you're going to be accountable to somebody, you've got to show up. And if you're going to text and make sure that you're checking in every day, just like I check in with my coach when I'm competing and getting ready for a show, I need somebody to look outside the box. Even though I could help myself, I still need that outside motivation just like they do. And when they give it to me, it makes me show Right on, yeah. And so that's your non-negotiables with your clients, okay? But what about Alan? What's your non-negotiables now? Like there's this whole, this man who's been claiming a whole new identity in another way with the evolution of your business, and then going to Tony Robbins. But what's your non-negotiables that you commit to now as an entrepreneur? as the man who's helping Well, it's like you just said, like so much has happened in such a short period of time. It's crazy. Like I caught myself the other day sitting by the fire and I was just like almost tearing up because I'm like, I just still can't fathom what has happened in such a short period of time. And the projection is insane. Like every day, there's no lost days anymore. There's no fucking thing, no such thing as Friday, Saturday, look forward to whatever. It's every day is on. And that's what I love about this because Dan taught me, it's like, Why does everybody just look forward to a specific time of the day or a specific time of year when you can make every day your best day? And so when you make that mindset switch to realize that every day is your best day, that for me was my number one non-negotiable. I will never not let that be a thing. It's not like I'm going to look forward to any other day. I'm going to make every day. And I teach my kids that every fucking day. It is what it is. I love every fucking day. And so Other non-negotiables for me is, how many people can I start to reach now with what I'm doing? Before, I just trained here where I trained one-on-one in groups. Don't get me wrong, I was busy and I helped quite a few people in a day. But now, with the volume and where we're able to go and how I'm able to go about it with the people that I have in my corner, I'm just so excited with being able to help more people every fucking day, like every day. Like I can't, like I'm going to be doing a talk here. We're going on a mega yacht in March. We're going all over the world. And it's just, it's so cool to just know Well, yeah, and there's that other side of it, Alan, that perhaps you have considered, but when there's people like me and the thousands of other people you coach, they're going on. And And that's why I tell all you guys, you guys end up becoming your own walking billboard. Just because someone can give you the tools, you still have to do the work. Just like I still have to do the work. I get up every day, the first thing I do is make my bed. Second thing I do is I get in the hot tub and I work for 15, 20 minutes on how I'm gonna go about the day. I make sure that I have my set things that make me just skyrocket straight And I said, I've learned from the best to be able to apply the best traits and attributes to be able to kick ass as much Yeah, no. And that's where the magic happens. My kids asked me this recently. Daddy, I didn't think of saying something like that. Nicely done. I'm going to use that. Oh, yeah. No, as they look at me and my daughter, my my youngest daughter, she looks at me and you know how kids can do that. You know, it's it's so crazy that So myself included, I never talked like that. I never thought about it. I never just was like, OK, every day is your best day. OK, well, OK, great. But it's it's very addicting when you start talking like that because other people start to pick as well. And it's it's like wildfire. And, you know, like I said, the more people you change, kind of make that switch, the better their life is. You know, the more everybody tends to talk, it's because like misery loves company. And when I was heavy and I felt horrible, I didn't want to be around other people. I didn't want to be doing the things that I love doing And it's like, yeah, there's so many people that can relate to that. Like even myself, I wouldn't I'm going to be speaking in Northern Canada. I wouldn't have done that before. 349 pounds. I hid, you know, and then, you know, um, Let's see if we can bust a myth for somebody right now. You talked about when you first had that vulnerable moment going into the gym and not sure if it was your place. I've been there thinking, okay, people are going to judge me. How do people break through that? people Nothing that motivates you more than anything else on the face of the planet. Look at Rocky IV, he put up a picture of Dolph Lundgren on that fucking right there, because that's what he needed. Just had this conversation with the guy I just talked to. You need to find something that motivates you and only you. Every single person has something. And for me, it was, all right, my mission is to help as many people possible feel the way I do now. You know what, for other people it might be, okay, I've got to get ready for a wedding, or I've got to do this, or just to be consistent is huge. I find that when you're consistent, and you're doing something sustainable, and you feel a thousand times better, and all of a sudden you're living a life that people are jealous about because now you put in the time and you're exactly where you want to be, enjoying So it's like short-term sacrifice, long-term gain. I know we can get there. It's just how much do you want it? And what's the most important thing to you? And I find when I talk to people that have kids, it's like I mentioned it earlier, it's being able to play with them. It's being able to do the things with them and not be like, holy shit, I'm tired or, or say, no, I never want to say no, because guess what? There's going to be a time when my kids don't want to do that with me because they're going to be gone. And I'm going to Yeah, they grow up, Alan, they grow up fast. Yeah. I have five kids. My oldest is 21. Youngest is six. So I know. I know. But yeah. But I think sometimes people go to the gym and they're worried about what people may think. But I remember even for me, at one point in my life, I went to the gym and I was 335 pounds at the time. And I went to a different city. I went to work out while the kids were playing in the amusement park. Guy came up to me and said, way to go for you coming here. Because there are people for whoever is out there listening, you're on a fitness journey. And maybe you're embarrassed to go in the gym. I can guarantee you most people in that gym, more worried about themselves, but they're silently cheering you on, cheering you on. There's a man that goes to my gym, Alan, and he's bigger than I ever was. He shows up, gets on the treadmill and I'm just cheering him on. I want him to win. I And it's those things that are, you know, you're saying that exactly right. It's like we, as individuals that are in a position that we might not be happy with, put in another position where we think somebody is judging us when they're not. They are doing exactly what you just said. They're thinking about themselves because they have their own goal, they have their own drive, they have their own mission. But at the same time, when someone like that, or like myself that walks through the door, they were supporting me, just not a lot of people come up and say it. That's why whenever I see a guy that's got a haircut or whatever, I'm like, hey, nice haircut. Instantly, it changes that complete, that demeanor of that individual. My daughter does the same thing. Whenever we go out for something to eat, she'll say to the waitress, it's like, wow, your hair looks great, or your nails look amazing, or she's very specific. And when you're very specific, it changes that person's mindset and it makes that It's crazy. And it just takes a little moment of kindness just a tiny bit to make them feel special. My father always said, when I grow up, I want to be just like you. But the other thing, when he was in the hospital dying, and we didn't know he was dying, but he would say to the nurses, you're my favorite nurse. Oh, really? Yeah. No, it doesn't. And when you finally get through those doors and you start to feel better, it's so encouraging because then you, once again, can be encouraging for other people because you've already been there, you've already experienced it, and you know the hardships that you think you go through, and now you can be a lighthouse for the next That's what we're here for. So we've talked about a couple of things, your transformation, how you're going through this incredible change of growth and possibility in your business. And the sky's the limit, really. But I wanted to spend just a minute or two and to tell people, maybe you can share a little bit about what it's like being in your world, because there's one magical part of your program that's great, and it's the cleanse. And that's a real test and discipline, isn't it? It sure fucking is. It's like, But Dan and guys like that teach mindset. If you can do that, you can do anything. And that's why I love to start off with it, because not only does it kick ass, it's only 16 days. Anybody on the planet can put them fucking selves through 16 days and I don't make fucking exceptions for anybody out there. It's like. After you get those 16 days done, not only do you feel better, do you look better, all those things, but now you know you can do it because you did do it. And so that's why I built this a long time ago, because it was like exactly that. I didn't realize what I was doing. I didn't realize I was building a mindset tool for somebody to be like, holy shit, I did it. What's next? Because what's next is going to be so much easier. Yeah. And it's like, I Yeah, it's the battleground though to prove that you can do it. And it builds, I think one thing I was thinking about recently, it builds a habit. And you just say, okay, one more day of this crap. That's what it is. But then once you get through seven or eight days, okay, this isn't that bad. And You probably heard, you know, I've heard every single, I've heard more guys complain than possible. Like it's just, but once again, you just said exactly that once you get past a certain amount of days, all of a sudden the pros have outweighed the cons. You start to feel a thousand times better. And just like anything, when you can see the light at the end of the tunnel and you're halfway there, why wouldn't you fair carry on the rest of the way? And so it's like initially those first couple of days, like you just said, you got to switch over your mindset and it takes three, four weeks to become a kind of routine for somebody. And so once you realize you start at six, you eat lunch at 12 and you finish at six, well, that becomes the pattern that you're going to do that for the next set. Now it's going to be that much easier and it's never going to be as hard as this again. But like you just said, I can do this. I did it. Fuck everybody And I've seen so many people being in the program that have done it and people are cheering it on. You know, you can do it. You can do anything if you set your mind to it. You just have to decide. It's like it's like. It's like what my coach said to me, he always said it, but I never really finally got it until I made that decision day in 2023. When he, when he said, Brett, you were on your own company. You don't have time to go to the gym. That's what he said. Okay. But Yeah. Like, well, what do you, what did they do in the plane? And that's what we forget to do is put our own oxygen mask on and have that mindset to accept it, to put ourselves first. And partnering and having somebody like Alan in your corner to be your coach is what's so freaking brilliant. You just have to You said that so perfectly, because I say that all the time. I say the second you break down, the system breaks down. And it's like not a self-centered or any form of like, oh, wow, I'm just thinking about me. When I did my talk in South Carolina, I literally talked about better bank account, better business, better body, better bedroom. And when you feel a thousand times better, every single thing that you do from the start of your day, from your kids to your job, to Yeah Yeah, I know it's so true. I There's we're getting close to the end, but I want to ask you this question. I don't have this written down Yeah, I'm not sure if I want to go there, but I'm going to because I think it's it's good to be real with people What's Sometimes we sugarcoat things saying, I know you've had to say some Anything, but for everyone listening, there's nothing. I will never lie to a single client because if I lie, well, what's the fucking point of doing any of this? And I've had people come in my studio where I just said, do you want the honest truth? Cause I'm going to give it to you. And they literally would. I just said, this is what we got to do. And so I remember once there's this guy, he came in, his name was Mike and I called him big Mike. And. He lived in the trailer park right behind where I started my initial studio out of my house. And he was 571 pounds. He was a vice president of Sherwin-Williams, the paint company in the States. They'd gone there, end up coming back, got divorced. But when he left, he was 220 pounds at 6'4". When he came back, he was 571 pounds. He came over and my ex-wife wanted me to meet him. So I met him and I started training him. The hardest thing for him was just getting out of bed. And I just said, you are going to die if you don't do this. Because what happened was he had put on the weight so fast in such a like record time that his body hadn't realized it to blow up from the inside out for high blood pressure, for all this edema, all these things, it was just kind of waiting, nothing had happened yet. So I said, Mike, you need to do this or else you're going to, it's a ticking Oh, I'm going to die. Nope. We started going in the right direction. Had him lose 200 pounds in like seven months. The guy lost an obscene amount of weight, took his life back. Everything started to go in the right direction. And. Something happened where his mindset just couldn't switch over. And for me, because I take my job so seriously, I would meet him at 5 o'clock in the morning at Tim Hortons every single day because we trained at 6. And I'd meet him and we would have a coffee. But I started to realize that every time I met him, he would have a couple of muffins, have a coffee, this and that. And I said, OK, well, if I stop meeting him for coffee, he'll stop eating that. Or at least that's what I thought in my head, because I was associating with him eating the food based on when we were hanging out. And. Something happened with his family and he went the other direction. And to this day, I had to stop seeing him because I would make sneak attacks to his house to bring his food and help him along. And I was taking it on at such a personal level that it was starting to affect me because I care so much. And I had to tell him, you and I are no longer a thing anymore because I can't physically help you because it's starting to affect myself and my relationship. And to this day, I think he's six or seven hundred pounds. He went the other direction. Yeah, man, that's so bad because. Him and I were so close. And it was it was something that was probably the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my entire life. Because when I take on somebody, I tell them I take this on on a personal level because I care more than anybody else on the face of the planet. And I had to say goodbye to But that may be what he needs. You can send love from a distance, but you can't. Folks, you can't want, when you're helping somebody, you can't want it more than anybody, than the other person does. That's what I learned in my own life in the last few years in various different points. This is something I want. There's things in my life that I want. You can't want something for somebody more than they want it. They also have to step up. So that It was very hard. And one of my clients, David Wood, He's a, he's a speaker as well, an amazing man. And he said to me, kind of what you just said, he's like, you got to at least try to swim towards me for me to be able to help you. Yeah. I can't walk you through everything. I've got the tools. I've got the, I can motivate you. I can tell you what we're going to do. I can do all those There's something, I know you're going to love this when I say it, cause I've heard this from somebody, he may have met the man, but he says, who's missing out because you're not showing up. Oh, that's nice. Yeah. That's the best thing I've heard. And I think about that all the time. And, and that, that man, he's on his path, but he's, there's You know what? Um, before we wrap up, I know what people, you need to follow Alan on Instagram for sure. Um, wherever you are on your journey, because the content you put out Ellen and the programs, the, the, the routines and all that is, uh, superb. So how do people find you on So on Instagram, my handle is coach Allen deck. Coach A-L-A-N-D-Y-C-K. And I have a new podcast that gets released every single week, every single I highly recommend you listen to it. I listened to the first episode, it was fire. Thank you. And I will just add for every single person listening out there, I was told a long time ago just to continue being the person I am and never change. And I am 120% real. There's nothing fake to me. I act exactly how I am right now in front of my kids. And you know what? I'm just that same person. There's no Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde. So everything that I talk about, I practice what I preach and I live And for people that are interested in coaching, DM me. Actually, you know what? DM me coach or group. You pick. DM me group and we'll definitely get you set up. Like I said, I love this. And the second you do that, your I've seen it, folks. I want to end on something a little fun, just a little different that I started doing recently. Rapid fire question time. Are you ready for the game show? Let's go. Okay. One rule you live by. First Shit. Wow. These are fucking, you know, you fucked me over. I never fumble at all. One rule I live by, It's going to be a shake with egg whites and fruit. Awesome. Okay. I believe you had to unlearn to grow. I needed to hear that Alan. Uh, okay. A song that fires Cool. Okay. Hardest promise you Never give up. Last question. If you could gift everyone one daily habit, what would it be? Make If you don't eat, if you don't put gas in the vehicle, guess what? You don't fucking go anywhere. Just because the body can get up and do what it needs to, doesn't mean it should be. Fucking Yeah, 100%. So Alan, I want to thank you, man, for being here. And everyone, you could do Alan and myself a big favor because the reason why I started this podcast, it was to help people. And having you as a guest and what you shared on your fitness journey and the mindset things we unlocked, there's somebody, there's one or two people that you know that needs to hear this. Share this episode with them so you can help someone, because that's why we're here. And at the same time, connect with Alan. Watch his content, DM him, and listen to his podcasts. You'll be better for it. Alan, thank you so much for being Thanks for tuning in to the Adaptive Mindset. If you found value in today's episode, don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who's ready to thrive in the digital age.