Welcome to the Adaptive Mindset. I'm Brett Gallant, cybersecurity thought leader and founder of Adaptive Office Solutions. Here, we don't just talk tech, we unlock the strategies, stories, and mindset shifts you need to stay secure, lead boldly, and thrive in a digital world. Let's get started. Welcome back to the Adaptive Mindset. My guest today is Daniel Anderson, a personal alignment guide, creator of the legacy code, and founder of Your Purpose Driven Life. Daniel helps high-achieving yet unfulfilled people, those who built the career, raised the kids, done the inner work, yet still feel something is missing. His journey is powerful. He's faced addiction, divorce, near suicide, short-term homelessness, and the devastating loss of his son's mother to an overdose. Through all of this, he discovered that alignment, not achievement, is what truly sustains fulfillment. Today, he's here to share how to move from chaos to clarity, how to protect your energy without shutting yourself off, and how to live what's true for you. Daniel, welcome It's great to have you. Um, so let's dig right in Daniel. Um, let's, um, let me ask you this. What, what happens when fine is no When fine is no longer enough, you You just know there's something missing, but aren't exactly sure. what that could be. Yeah. Um, so let's take us back a little bit about your story. Like what, what has been some turning points where in your life, maybe like where you've moved from pain into alignment, let's get, let people get to know you Sure. I'm a pretty open book. Um, I grew up. in the seventies. And as a Gen Xer, you know, I was pretty much forced to raise myself and become an adult awfully early. Uh, thank God I did have things I did before the internet was around. So that Um, there was no back then there was no parental supervision. There was gravel playgrounds, the molten hot metal slide, all the fun stuff. But even when I was little, I always had a feeling that I was more than what I I knew that somewhere deep down that there was more to life than what I was going through and what I dealt with. But I didn't know how to put it into words and then the new age movement came around. And, you know, when, when, when it was first discovered or talked about openly, um, people So I went along with that. Yeah. That's a bunch of nonsense But I kept feeling it's worth something, but again, I didn't know what, so I ended up drifting throughout my early adult life from one job to another, trying to figure things out. One bad relationship after another. And till I met my son's mom, who turned out actually it was more of a relationship of convenience. We should have been just friends and nothing more, but we ended up having a child together. Spent eight We got a divorce. He put me through hell after that for many years. And then about 11 years ago, my son found her after she died of an overdose. Wow. That kind of threw my world even more upside And it made priorities change for me a lot. By that time of my life, I finally was with the right person, who I'm still with very happily married to today. He's been a gigantic help in my life. Yeah. So I guess the real turning point for me was when I decided to start thinking about all the stuff that I had gone through in my life. And what was the one constant? And it was me. I was the one thing that had never changed, even though all the other circumstances around me changed. I was still acting like the same old me, same Nonsense. And so I decided to start an inner journey and start looking at myself and figuring things out from there and change from the inside to see it change on the outside. Cause you know, there's so many people that talk about this and have for years, you know, there's gotta be something to it. And it's kind of funny because I was. doing paranormal investigating as a hobby several years ago. And one of the reasons why I got into my journey was to pat back and choose some gifts that I had when I was a kid that I hid away because I thought they were curses and not gifts. And little did I know that would lead me to where I am today, a completely changed person, much happier, much more aligned with what I'm supposed to do and really finally Well, one of my gifts actually is a strong connection to the spirit realm and I use pendulum definition and I commute, communicate with my guides and things that way. And one of the first things they told me is you're supposed to become coach. Yeah. I'm just thinking, you know, I know that didn't come from me So how do you turn down divine instruction? and saying like, you're supposed to do this, but figure it out. So I didn't, I jumped head first into it and spent a couple of years trying to figure out exactly who I'm supposed to talk to, what I'm supposed to talk about, what I'm supposed to do. I had four different programs that I tried to launch and none of them felt like me until I came up with So now I'm here to help people who find themselves, you know, stuck between the best version of themselves and the person that's rooted into everyday life and the people that are kind of stuck in the messy metal. I know what it's like. I'm still find myself there and. But I know some ways to get through it and to build resilience and to And that's the truth. A lot of people are still stuck in the messy middle. We're still on this journey trying to figure it out. A lot of times we talk on the podcast about mindset and overcoming limiting beliefs and adaptability. Along the way, what kind of mindset shifts did you have to have when you were making all this transformative change? I imagine there's a bit of limiting belief there that you had too that as you just dived into it and discovered this and then landing on the legacy code. Absolutely. We all have an inner critic. For some of us speak louder than the positive And my inner critic. who I affectionately called the inner a-hole, for years yelled at me. I mean, very loud to the point where it was the only thing I was hearing, you know, you're not good enough. You're never going to mount anything. You might as well just give up. What's the point of trying? So then I, with my journey into myself, I figured out to start to And by meditating and just writing thoughts down, that really silences that inner a-hole up. And, you know, as I said, for me, it was a nonstop yelling at the top of his voice through a bullhorn in my head, how worthless I was, how I wasn't deserving of success, happiness, love, or anything. And when I just started to focus on breathing and thinking, okay, well, if that's the truth, then why have I met the woman that I'm supposed to be with? Why have I found the career that I'm supposed to be in? And why have I found so many good friends? Um, and slowly, but surely with, with journaling and just trying to be grad grateful for everything, that voice in about 95% gone now, once in a while, it still shows up and, you know, the imposter syndrome that we all get sometimes. Um, but once you shut that voice up, it's just, and you, you And you can start to tap into the, the wealth So I've shifted my beliefs from, I'm not good enough and not worthy to, and, and also why me? Why does this have to happen to me too? No, I am good enough. This is my life. I'm, I'm the creator of it. Nobody's coming to save us. And First of all, say that no one's coming to save you. So might as well be And, you know, a lot of people, when they they hear spiritual spirituality and spiritual growth and things like that, they automatically kind of assume it's just a religious dogma and the rules and all spirituality is, is Tapping into who we really are and who we really are in an extension of what people call God. And God is not, you know, some big old man who pissed off at us all up in the sky, looking down at us, judging us. No, it's, it's love. It's our essence. It's who we really are. And if people can realize that and who's always walking alongside us and with us and inside of us. There's no need to be fearful of anything. And, you know, fear is, is a limiting belief. Fear is what holds us down and what keeps us from doing anything Yeah. I've heard it said false evidence appearing real. That's Yeah. You know, what, what it, what experiences and what we consider reality is, is how we truly, how we feel about ourselves kind of gets projected to the outside and reflect back to us. So, you know, like I had said before, I would always be like, okay, why did this, why did this have to happen to me? Why, why am I the one that always loses this job? Why am I the one that, you know, gets into an accident or gets sick and because of what we focus on, where we put our energy. Um, I guess I should say that that saying is where our energy goes or where our focus goes, our energy flows. And what that means is where, what we focus on ends up becoming a reality. So people always seem to think that's a bunch of nonsense, but yet they focus on all the negative stuff in their lives and all the bad things. And what happens is more bad things pile on. So why not change that? You can change your thoughts. Yeah. If you make Yeah. Why not focus on the lesson instead of the pain and being grateful for the lesson and being grateful for everything that you see and knowing that We are really literally all just energetic beings, no matter if it's us physically or the trees outside or the grass growing or the bugs, it's all the same thing. It's all just different frequencies and different energies. And, you know, it's amazing how far science and quantum physics and all that stuff that's way above my pay grade is, how they've discovered that the tiniest part of a molecule will act one way until it's focused on, until we look at it, and then it changes its behavior to whatever we pretty much decide how we look at it. So if you look at things as always cloudy and always rainy and always glass is half empty, then yeah, your life is going to keep repeating that. Yeah. You're, you're making me think a lot of, um, I've heard, uh, another person express this, like you before Bob Proctor, you familiar with his work? Yes. Yeah. He talks a lot about energy and, and like, we're vibrational, uh, we're all moving different vibrations. Yeah. You know, there are people that talk about it and people that listen to it. I didn't really understand it for a year, but I still, you know, go deep into YouTube videos, watching Abraham Hick and watching Wayne Dyer. Yeah. Dyer's another great guy. Yeah. And yeah, it's two lectures that have really had almost the biggest impact on Wayne Dyer. Yes. Yeah. Same. I, I, I remember watching him a lot on PBS and then I've gone down the rabbit hole of watching him on YouTube. Always something incredible when you can pick up from, from Wayne, like, yeah. And, and it, you know, the thing is that it may sound like a bunch of out there nonsense, but it's really true. Everything they, they talk about, you know, Happiness comes from within and, you know, people always hear you can't love somebody else unless you love yourself. And they think it, you know, to have one meaning, but it doesn't, you know, when we truly appreciate who we are and what we are. Everything You have to have it in yourself to be able to give. You're making me think right now about one of the last things I heard Wayne Dyer talk about. I'll say it and I'm sure you're going to identify with it right away. There was a, he was on the street or on a beach somewhere and a person came up and said, asked him, what's the city like here? We're just moving here. Well, what's the city like in your, from where you're from? Well, it's terrible. People never reach out and it's just really awful. No one really connects their smiles. He said, well, that's exactly what you'll find here. And then not shortly after, another person came up. What's the city like here? I'm just moved. I'm excited to be here and looking forward to meeting people. Well, what's the place like in your community? Oh, I loved it there. It was so great. There were so many connections, so many friends, and everybody went out of their way to help people. Well, you'll be happy to know you'll find the exact same thing here. Yeah, that's a great story. Yup. Yeah. So Wayne Dyer, Yeah. There was that story. And then the one that he would talk about where they, this person had to write out her life story in five chapters. Yeah. And I don't remember exactly how it went, but it was like, I'm walking down the street. There's a How did I get here? You know, and I, you know, something like gleaming outside influences for her being stuck in that, that hole. And it took her forever The two, I'm walking down the street. There's a hole. I see the hole and I still I blame outside forces again and it takes me a long time to get out. Chapter three, I'm walking down the street and there's a big hole. And I fall in yet again. And this time I know it's my fault. So it's a little sooner that I get out of it. Chapter four was the same thing. She walked down the street, comes to a hole. fall then she immediately knew it was her fault because she climbed right out. Chapter five was she So true. Sometimes it takes us a while to learn our lesson to go down another So the story about the hole is When we go down that same path that we always went down because it's comfortable and familiar, we always find ourselves in the exact same position and the exact same scenario. We have to make conscious decisions to stop, pause, think about it. Yeah. You know, and what happens if I go down this familiar road? Well, it's going to end up with a familiar scenario. But what's over there? I don't know. It's, it's too scary. Well, we don't grow until we do Yeah. Yeah. Leap of faith. Have you ever read the book? Uh, who moved my cheese? No. I highly recommend you listen to it or read it. It's very much exactly what we're talking about. It's a parable of two mice that are stuck in a maze. And they go to the same place for looking for the cheese. And one day the cheese is gone. And the same, the two mice, eventually one decides to break out and start going down a different path and finds a little bit of cheese, but the other mouse keeps going to the same place. No cheese. So you can do the math, you know where the story goes. And a lot of times in life, we're like those two mice and we're going to the same place, getting the same results, but we don't take that courageous step and going out and having that mindset to go after the new opportunities, Yeah, I recently found myself kind of in that same scenario in a different way. I'd been working full time for a company while coaching and I spent eight years there and thought it was a wonderful company, great environment, great benefits, great everything. All of a sudden in July, we get a message from the higher up saying that, oh yeah, because of our five-year growth plan, we are eliminating your positions. So I worked in a company that did 401k retirements for major places in the country. And what I did there was, you know, basically give HR people at other corporations best to our platform and the levels of access that they got so they could, you know, fund their employees' retirements. And they decided that that position or that department was no longer viable. So long story short is I spent 18 plus months training a team in India who I absolutely loved. Still do. Holding a little against anybody in tech company. But thinking that they were helping us, but turns out they replaced us. So we all still had to put on a smile and show up every single day until September 12th and September 12th came We were done. And the It would have been, I'd probably still be laying Yeah. This time, uh, you know, something You know, our creator, God, whatever you want to call it, put us here, put me here for, for a reason. And he, this is that kick in my butt to jump full in and the coaching business and try to change lives. And for the first time in my life, after losing a job or knowing I was gonna lose a job, I was And I still am, I'm still excited for this next phase of Yeah, yeah. It's funny how we get those turning points and they just come up and new opportunities come. Let me ask you a little bit about legacy code framework a little bit, just pivot for a bit. There's six steps in your framework right there, right? Is that what I That's correct. Yeah. And what it is, first, how it came about. My And I got to thinking about not only what he meant to me, but what he meant to the community in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, because he was a dry cleaner for 70 years, 70 plus actually, and owned a couple of businesses in what people would call the bad part of town. And, you know, He would do nothing but help his customers if they couldn't afford to pay for their dry cleaning. He would just say, fine, pay me when you can. I'll be back next week to collect on whatever you can give me. No problem. And I never knew exactly how big his legacy was. Not only I knew for the family and the people that he loved and his close friends what he meant, but When there were 350 plus people that showed up to his funeral, most of them, a big portion of them, former customers Got me to thinking, you know, and I ended up doing the eulogy for his funeral where I talked about legacy and how we need to really not wait to have our legacy come out. It's something that we need to consciously focus on building now. And so from his lessons that he had taught me throughout life, came up with the legacy code. And what legacy stands for is, the L is we look at what's no longer working in our life. and coming to a conclusion that we need to let go of the things that aren't working and move towards things that are better for us and serve our greater good. And how do we do that? We start to empty the noise, which is E. So it's clearing the mental, emotional, and energetic clutter that goes on in our head to start getting back to the silence and getting back to the voice of the divine that we all have, regardless of Then we move on to G, which is get honest about what you really want. Because, Every single day you could ask somebody and when you know that Do you know you're not? Well, be honest. Just say, you know, I've got some things wrong, but I'm working on them and I know things will get better. Yeah. So, and I think it's because we, when we aren't or want to be honest, we feel guilty about the things that we really want. So then we just kind of put it on the back burner and don't go for it. A is aligning with what matters. And that's, you know, getting into alignment with your higher self, you know, with, with the person that you're meant to be. And when you're in alignment, everything goes beautifully. bird seem to chirp louder, the sun seems to shine brighter, even the rain seems to wash away and it doesn't seem to be as gloomy when it's raining out because it's just bringing about new life. B is creating boundaries that hold and by that I mean not putting up solid walls around us but protecting our energy and protecting our auras and not absorbing other people's It's perfectly all right when somebody asks you to do something to say Why is basically yielding to the best version of yourself and letting go of the person that you were to become the person that you are meant to be. Just embracing it. And then, you know, going from there to living what your legacy should be and passing on your knowledge and, and getting rid of fear and just being and expressing love to everybody no matter what. Yeah. What have I've seen a lot of people with the same kind of mindsets that I used to have and limiting beliefs and not feeling good about themselves and through the program and through the things we discussed and the meditations I They slowly but surely. You know, I've seen them. really tip away at that, at all the noise and, and realize that the stories they've been living in the life they've been living has been everybody else's expectations of them and not their own voice. And that, that's what limiting beliefs are. Now, when we hear, for me, it was, you know, the worthlessness and the being ignored and not feeling like I was going to matter and You But when you hear things enough, it And that was my truth for so long. And sometimes all it takes is another person to look at you and say, I know what you're capable of. I don't know you super well, but I can see that you are capable of so much more and you know more than you think you do. That was a word or a phrase that I got from my mentor when I went to school to get into IT. He was big on, you know more than you think you know. And I guess I did because when I was doing my Microsoft certifications, I ended up passing two of the most difficult things that they have within a 24 hour period. You're not feeling them after failing them both by between one and five So, you know, if you just, if, if you don't, if anybody in your audience may not believe in themselves, I believe in each and every one of them. I've been where you are. I've made it through where you are. And it's just a test and no matter. We have to go through these tests to become who we And we go through these tests and the tests seem to get harder when we're in the middle of it and we're like, How much more can I take? Well, okay, life's going to show you exactly how much more you can take You're hitting some truth bombs there, man. You're like, I've, I've, Daniel, I've been hit with some stuff and everybody has. And I'm like, why me? Why not you? And it's been, I believe, just based on what you're saying, sometimes, yeah, it's a test, but it forms who we are so we can help someone later on. And I know the tests I've had, and I know I've had a couple of doozies. I know at some point, because of what I went Exactly. You know, I've walked the path, I've been to the point of At one point in my life where I lost a job that I had, I had no car left. My girlfriend, who I was living with at the time, she moved out She took everything, left a note, left me the car that she had, but that wasn't worth anything. Now, so I was devastated. And since I had lost a job again, my ex-wife who, when she was still alive, he loved to play the, you're not going to pay me child support. You're not going to see our child. Yeah. That was, you know, I'll admit I was stupid and scared of the courts. And I knew that had I fought harder, I could have gotten him away from her. And I feel a tinge of guilt about that still, but that's another story. Yeah. But. So I lost my job, I lost my child, I lost my girlfriend, and then I got an eviction notice from the apartment because I had no way to pay and I'd been giving her So here I was, childless, just about to be homeless, My family decided they wouldn't help me because I guess I needed to figure something out on my own. And so I reached out to a friend who threw me a lifeline and said, what I'm going to do is, I don't care what my life says, you're going to move in with us until you can get back on your feet. And I was hoping it would only be for a month or two, but it ended up being five months, Um, he, you know, he's the one that saved my life. And when I was sitting there most in one of your darker hours, he was, and he's been my best friend since seventh grade and we're still best friend, even after me living there for so many months. And that was a test. I'm sure it was. And not only for, for us too, it was a test for him and his You know, I'm sure she, that's a lot, isn't it? Yeah. Yeah. I literally owe my, all my life to him because I was at the end of my rope and that inner critic, that inner angry person, my inner demon was yelling. End it, kill yourself. You're better And I was within five minutes of doing it at this one point. What I suddenly, you know, when, when you feel at your lowest point, the way you look at things, it seems like you're in a fog and things just look dark. Like literally all of a sudden it just cleared. And I heard this other voice in my head that I hadn't heard in forever saying, don't listen to it. I'm with you. I got you. You're here for a reason. You'll know what it is someday. Don't do it. Don't listen to it. And all of a sudden, like, just like that, it changed. I snapped out of it and. got my stuff together and And now things just started to change for me. I got it. I moved into my own place out of sheer luck without even having a new job yet. And within two days of me moving into my own place and being on my own again, I'd found another job that paid better than But yeah, it's when you're at your darkest moment and about to jump off the ledge, there can As long as you're open to receiving it, and you can recognize it, you saw it, and that person saved you. Now, I really believe in this. People show up in your life, in your darkest hour, and then you can become that person. I live this by just what I'm setting out to be. I hope I'm living up to it. I keep working on it. be the person I need it most in my darkest hour. Right now, because of things that have happened a few years ago, I know I am that person. When things that would bother, like you said, things that would bother you before, you can handle it better, because who you are, who you're showing up as, and that friendship that means everything, that saved you, that's... Each and Yes, we do. And the most important person that we have to show that to is And we don't do it sometimes, don't we? We forget that. We forget to love It's easier for us to believe the negative things that we think about ourselves than to say, Okay. Prove And, and why is it so easy to say, um, oh, nothing ever goes right. I hate myself. I'm just a terrible person. Why is it easier to believe that then? I'm a good person. I love myself. Yeah. I forgive myself. And that's, that's the key right there. Yeah. Forgiveness I don't care who did what to hurt you. Let it go. Let Yeah, that's true. I've been there along the way and I forgive some people. And it Is there a living rent-free in our head? Taking up space that could Is it right? Not at all. Yeah. No. And so you say, I forgive You just, no, you just say it silently out into the world. I forgive Yeah. I forgive you. I love you when Yeah. Just have to be willing to accept it and do it, which is hard. It is. Yeah. Um, Daniel, how do people find you? Are I'm on Instagram. I'm on LinkedIn. I have a YouTube channel called the soul searching society. Oh, nice. Um, and I can be reached at, uh, coach, danielanderson.com. And if somebody wants And yeah, I know, I know you, um, I know you also have a free guide for listeners, I believe of the truth inside you. Yes, I do. Let me get you that. I'll put that in the show notes. But I encourage everybody to DM and connect with Daniel. Start a conversation. You'll be better for having it. It's always better to meet new people and connect and get to know people, just like Daniel and I've gotten to know each other. The real message in here, what we've been talking about is, you know, we're not really stuck. Sometimes we're between two identities, like who you were and who you really are. I want to encourage all of our listeners to reflect on that and reach out to Daniel and look at his content. Daniel, I want to wrap up here. I really enjoyed this conversation. It was meant for me to happen, and I know it was meant for quite a few listeners to listen to today that it's going to help people. I want to wrap up with doing something a little fun. Are you in for a little bit of fun at the end? Oh, I'm always up for fun. There we go. That's what I want to hear. Let's do some rapid fire questions. Okay. Okay. What's one daily practice you can't live without? Just first thing comes to your mind. Gratitude. Yeah, I love it. Horse and Miracles. What is that? A horse Horse. Oh, horse. Yeah. A horse in miracles. That would be interesting. A horse in miracles. Somebody should write that book, but a course in miracles. Beautiful. If someone listening only remembers one truth from this conversation, what Forgiveness is not for the other person. It's for your own What's a question you wish people would ask you more often? That's a good one. Yeah. Are you able to guide me on my path? Yes. Let's be open to asking for help, asking When you think about your legacy, what do you want to be remembered for? I want to be remembered as the guy that made everybody's life around him better. Yeah. In I can't think of a better way to end our show on that note. I think that's what we should all do. That's the rallying cry. Yeah, for sure. Daniel, listen, I really appreciate this. Everybody listening, please share this episode. Thank Daniel by doing that, because you can help somebody by sharing this, at least one or two people. It was a pleasure, Daniel. I'm glad to have gotten to know you and look forward to connecting with you further. Thank you so much. Thank you. Yep. Thanks for tuning in to The Adaptive Mindset. 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